When Tony finally named Ralph capo, he did warn him about being careful what he wished for. Ralph finally had earnings and power he wanted, but also was burdened with responsibility.

Tony reveled in that - in S3E13, he taunted Ralph in a way knowing Ralph was in a no-win situation. Either Ralph whacks the son of the woman he's in a relationship with, or he gives Jackie a pass and loses face with most of the family.