Talking about Michael, Kay and their children, got me thinking about Vito, Carmela and their children and family man Vito's role as father!

Among others,
1. Vito knew Sonny was being unfaithful to his wife Sandra but didn't discipline Sonny to stop the infidelity just “a man who doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man” and when Sonny shooting off his mouth at Sollozzo's drugs meeting “Sonny's brain is going soft from all that comedy he was playing with that young girl”
2. Vito's perhaps lack of foresight and 'antagonising' the new son-in-law, Carlo by telling Tom “never to give Carlo something important, a living but never discuss the Family business with him”
3. Vito doing nothing, no father-in-law/son-in-law talk, about Carlo's abuse of his daughter Connie [old school not interfering? – not good enough!]
4. Vito's inaction regarding Connie's abuse resulted in Sonny's involvement, the hot headed Sonny's public beating of Carlo and Sonny's ultimate death
5. Vito's dismissal of Fredo “And Fredo....well, Fredo was....well” was somewhat disparaging [after Vito's return from the hospital, Fredo came back alone to Vito's bedroom but was completely ignored by Vito who was upset at Michael's involvement in killing McCluskey and Sollozzo]
6. Surely Vito was aware that Fredo was banging cocktail waitresses two at a time! that Fredo was being slapped and straightened out in public by Moe Greene and Fredo took Greene's side against the family in Las Vegas
7. If Fredo is weak and stupid to be Don perhaps giving Fredo at least a face saving role in the family to show that Fredo is valued in his own right
8. Vito left a murderous legacy for “I never wanted this for you” son Michael
9. Vito shut Carmela out of business too, starting with when he went into the bathroom and closed the door on her after receiving the bundle of guns from Clemenza