The father was a Boss !! The kid acted out a little compared to what he could have done.

The same with Chris and Phil , they would hope shit would never get big enough so the old man did not hear so they did not have to act out.

When stuff did reach the old mans ear the shit hit the fan , and yes there were a couple times that stupid shit went to far .
That was mostly due to who was around that herd about what happened and then the guys could not back down , had to look tough !!!

None of the boys were excessive with messing with people.

Now don't get me wrong if you pushed back they would shoot you !!! But that was after the boss found out and felt that his guys (family) were disrespected .