jackie jr robbed a card game ran by a made guy (pontecorvo), he and his buddies shot a made guy (furio) and shot at a third made guy(chris). he had to go. tony didn't really give the final say to ralphie, he was just screwing with him. tony knew jackie had to go, ralph knew jackie had to go, so tony as way to put the screws to ralph and make him feel guilty leading jackie down that path and not schooling him enough gave some nonsense about ralph makes the choice even though they both know there is only one choice to make.