Boy talk about HOT!!!
Tough to say. He wanted to distance himself from the family before he even met Kay (he didn't meet her until after he got out of the Marines), but then of course everything happened.
I think that he would have even without her in his life, however I think if Appolonia had lived then he would have fully embraced being a Mafioso because A) She already knew he was (or at least suspected it), and B) She would have been like Mama Corleone and known not to ask questions or be a bitch to him.
I think both told the story of Michael. With Kay BEFORE he fled I think he truly wanted to get out until they shot Vito of course. With Appolonia he just wanted to solidify his Sicilian roots in the eyes of his Father and everyone else.
Was it Patriarca or Junior that said something about a Sicilian wife wont say shit after being smacked but an American wife wont shut up or something like that? I think that tells the story in this too in a way.
