As far as the issue with Blundetto,Phil put it aside out of respect for Johnny Sac and the best interests of the Lupertazzi's,and even during the sitdown with Phil, Tony, and Little Carmine,he appeared to be OK with moving on,(until Brainless minimized the killing of Phil's brother).
Phil did try to get permission for revenge,and coupled with the sacrifice of twenty years of his life in the can,I would have to call him more old school and more respected than Tony.