Well, I have to agree with Tony when he said to Carmela that she's only religious when it suits her. Tony wasn't no saint, but Carmela wasn't either. If she was THAT religious she wouldn't be with Tony in the first place.

As for Meadow hating her father, I don't agree with that. She was just a spoiled little shit in her teens but as she got older she really loved Tony, and as mentioned even defending him probably because she matured and understood that Tony was just providing for his family.