Louis Dinunzio is allegedly a made member but doesn't seem to be any sources out there confiriming concretely but i would say he is. No you don't have to make your bones anymore its not a LCN rule as a whole anymore but im sure there are still certain capos and made guys that would make you kill someone if you wanna get made, but the mob life is a violent one and is controlled and ruled with violence so even if you didn't make your bones to get made you would be involved or carry out murder eventually once your made if they tell you to kill someone and you don't they will kill you

Also unless the murders are public or are tied into a case you would't hear about it. If some soldier goes missing it won't be in the papers unless they solve it