I've talked about it before, and this up to interpretation, but:

1. Tony was assassinated in the resteraunt
2. Silvio is either dead or convalescent
3. Paulie was assassinated shortly after Tony

See my post 3'Oclock for my explanation on why I believe Paulie was killed.

There isn't too much sense in debating. It's all up to interpretation and the conversation "was Tony killed or not" has absolutely been worn to death.

Still, I appreciate your post because I often think to myself what the rest of the Family is up to. As to who is running the family? Probably Patsy Paresi (sp). My opinion.