The number of made men in families, and their "power" vis-a-vis others, is guesswork at best. The FBI and local law enforcement base their estimates on informants and the seats of their pants, not on anything concrete, much less "published." (A satirical magazine I used to subscribe to once published an "annual report" of the Gotti "enterprise." Hilarious!). The only mob "publication" was the list of proposed made guys the cops found in Junior Gotti's desk.

Lilo's right: didn't make much difference to the victim if the mob guy intimidating him was made or not. In fact, in some ways it was (maybe still is) better to be an associate--he doesn't get the presssure a made guy gets, and generally doesn't get anywhere near the attention made guys get from law enforcement.