He distanced himself from the family business not from his father

That's my family, Kay It's not me. was immediately after the band leader story which was the distinctive separation, he was pinpointing

He has been away and would hardly be in a position to ascertain the relationship between Vito, Sonny and Tom

I reckon taking non-Sicilian Tom in, no strings attached showed the family as benevolent

he's been with us ever since showed the family ties on both sides Tom didn't leave after establishing himself and the family didn't want him to either

They embraced at the wedding They hugged before the Sollozzo shooting
He would have resented anyone who dared! to map out his future

Whatever happened down the track had no bearing on the wedding talk