Quick question on Neil Dellacroces affair.

I've read that the woman he had the affair with was Rosemary Connolly-Grillo, wife of Gambino solider/capo? Ernesto Grillo Jnr.

That union resulted in a child, Shannon(Sandy)Connolly. This is the chick that John Gotti was supposedly bangin and has a daughter with.

Now she is married to a Gambino associate named Ernie Grillo.

What's the relationship here between the two Grillo guys? Or do I just have the names mixed up?

It was a mixup. Rosemary was neil's girlfriend. That relationship produced children one of which was Sandy Connolly. Sandy was married to Ernest grillo and she was the one who had a affair with gotti

ernie's father was leo

There is also the story (I don't know how much truth there is too it) that Paul promised Don Carlo to make sure that Tommy (Carlo's son) became boss after Paul. Considering Carlo's nepotism and old school ways, I find that plausible even though as later events would prove that Tommy would roll over pretty easy when faced with big time charges.

When did Tommy roll over? He did his time and kept his mouth shut

He kept his mouth shut and did his time. But he plead out due to a "terrifying fear of prison" and lost the Gambinos the garment district trucking racket in the process.

http://www.nytimes.com/1992/02/27/nyregion/gambinos-to-quit-trucking-business-in-a-plea-bargain.html?scp=28&sq=%22Thomas+Gambino%22&st=nyt

IRRC, he and his brother openly talked about scams in his office and was "shocked" to find out that the FBI was bugging his office even though he should have known better after just about everyone else in the Gambinos had been tripped up on bugs.

Tommy and his brother Joe traded away a multi-million dollar racket to avoid 25 years and to keep thier own personal fortune. Tommy only went to jail after Gravano flipped and the feds had him cold on loansharking and gambling in Connecticut. Yes he didn't flip, but he sure fucked up some good things.