Enabling, indeed. Her visit to Dr. Krakower was a watershed moment in the series. "The one thing you can't say, is that you've never been told". Don't know how much Carmela could be criminally charged for, however. I can't think of anything specific and direct Tony discussed with her that included names. As far as I can remember, Angie Bonpensiero was the only one of the "wives" that became connected. I love the scene when Carmela walks into Angie's office at the body shop while Benny and another goon are in there. She was so humbled walking out of there, reduced to a child-like status.