All stories indicate that gay members of the LCN did not make their preference known to other member before being made, but only years or decades later. AMATO was allegedly a gay boss, but that is moistly based on his wife's telling members of the crime family about it, but John and her had been fighting constantly when he became acting boss. Joe Diamonds of the bonanno's is the only boss who was most likely gay. Note that some mafia members wore pinky rings, I heard this was so they could identify a gangster who was gay.