Nicky, thats the problem, as I said earlier, your work will essentially demand that you DO entertain the person's fantasy and call her Brenda from Monday onwards. If not, you'll have to leave and no doubt be made to feel like a closet trannyphobe-or whatever name society eventually is forced to call people.

Its not a case of live and let live, its the fact you will be forced to join in with the "Emperors new clothes" bullshit. As I said, its ALREADY happened at my fathers old workplace. The women were forced to accept this guy using their toilets - a 6foot guy with long hair and a dress trying to force conversation about make up etc with female co-workers was just creepy and everyone thought so. But mention it, or attempt to be offended, and you can clear your desk.