So saddened to read that... how horrible!

I will also say a prayer, cuz it doesn't matter if you're religious or not, if I am. Can't hurt, right?

I wish you and your family virtual hugs and strength during this tough time. Just do us and your brother a favor -- when it comes to making tough decisions for the next year, just ask yourself, "what would TJ do?"... and you'll have your answer.

Stay strong, but also don't be afraid to be emotional. It's not unmanly to feel.