I wouldn't be surprised if all this 'outrage' over these shows is bullshit.
The mob is ALL about money. And many sins are forgiven dependant on the size of your bankroll. And as long as you can pass the blame, 'my wife, my daughter...' Disown them to quell any discontent, couple that with a fat kick to your boss and life goes on.

These guys don't have the luxury to live on their rules anymore.

My guess is it's publicity by the Bonannos to keep other families happy (ie Westside)