I dont think any families take orders from new york today. but if your talking about the past i think the two families that new york has had the most influence over has been the decalvecantes and the philly families, the decalvecantes more because of their close proximity to new york and the philly family because of their bosses relationship with new york bosses. With Angelo Bruno being allies with Gambino, later Scarfo being close with Bobby Manna, Stanfa was also close with the Gambinos but after he went to Jail and Merlino came to power phillys and New yorks close relationship pretty much ceased to exist. And since Vinny Ocean flipping and so many indictments in the late 90s and early 2000s that has lead to the decalvecantes current much weakened state New York really has no need for the decaves to be taking orders from them.