Ivy just stop and think about that for a second. That's the way it's "supposed" to be? You really do need a time machine to the fifties. I'm not saying kids should be raised with both parents working but what if the dad stays at home and the mother works? Who says a father can't take care of the kids? I'm trying to get you to think outside of the box here. How do you know for sure that it's "meant" to be that way? Please don't tell me you do.