Yep im with ou pp, if anyon has a gun to my family i dont care what the demand i comply. But if someone is standing there telling me they are going to kill my wife ajd son after they hurt them for a long time and they are no where around, what other choice do you have to eliminate this possibilty that very second. What if you are short on his cash a couple weeks and he decides to go ahead with parts of his plan? In thr words of Joe B "you have to be sure" he has no chance to kill your family after a threat like that is made.