I would choose the one, whom I loved. The homemaking skills are of marginal consequence. I wouldn't worry about how her looks would be over the years. Also, I don't know what Carmela Soprano looks like.
This is what Carmela Soprano (played by Edie Falco) looked like (think TIS's avatar):
As far as my personal answer, you've pretty much said it all.
Signor V.
"For me, there's only my wife..."
"Sure I cook with wine - sometimes I even add it to the food!"
"When life itself seems lunatic, who knows where madness lies?"
"It was a grass harp... And we listened."
"Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it? Every, every minute?"
