Also, not all Mob families initiate a member in a formal ceremony, Fat Vinny Teresa, in his autobio, "My Life in the Mafia," said that "you just got called to the office one day and got a pat on the shoulder," or something similar. A Don is a sovereign and can do whatever he wants. If he wants to elevate his son, he can do so without any ceremony. There's no indication that either Junior Gotti or Bill Bonanno were ever formally made.