SB - Sounds to me like your husband is so secure with you that all the other stuff is just superfluous periphery. That, my friends, is confidence!

As for my own planning, whether or not I'm NID, I'm involved by necessity because it's a bit tough for my fiancee to plan from out of state. In any case, my thinking is I should help whenever I can to relieve my fiancee's stress in the next few months. My jobs include securing the photographer/videographer and the reception. I think contract negotiations are fun anyway, so all the better.

However, when it comes to things like wedding favors or the flowers in the bouquet, I don't mind staying out of the decision making.