I don't look at Carmella as selfish at all. I think she is genuinely concerned about finances if something happens to Tony. Yea, she has a good life as far as material things go, but must have "issues" in the relationship department. I do think she loves Tony though, and I think Tony loves her, in spite of his indescretions.

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"Mankind must put an end to war before war puts an end to mankind. War will exist until that distant day when the conscientious objector enjoys the same reputation and prestige that the warrior does today." JFK

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