It sounds like the structure in modern day mob families is unclear. I'm sure that this is related to recruitment problems - there has been a relaxation of parental Italian purity in order to create more made guys. This probably takes away a lot of the symbolism and dispels the idea that made men are honourable men, soldiers part of an ancient tradition.
The tribal bond between made guys is maybe weaker without the strict requirements for membership.

Perhaps, there's less trust in this thing of ours which is why the top guys feel they have to be more involved directly. Maybe the Sopranos is an example of this.

It's more difficult for mobsters to convince themselves as Tony Sopranos does that he and his people are soldiers.
Is Omerta dead?

I realise that the Godfather provides an elaborate example of how to manage a successful family - the boss talks to the consiglere, the consilegre talks to the underbosses, the underbosses talk to the capos, the capos took to their soldiers etc. What a wonderful way to run a family. No wonder Tom Hagen could say "this committee owes an apology when the charges wouldn't stick.

This kind of discretion is dead. John Gotti didn't help and I think the Sopranos reflects his sloppiness. He literally held conferences and he courted the media. Nobody trusts anyone anymore.
As Tony Soprano says "only way to run a family now is bunker style'

What is the future for this thing of ours?
Complete restructuring or return to buffer style management.

We need a debate on the mob's future.

"That's right counsellor family had a lot of buffers" Willy Cicci laughs.