Originally posted by TonyD:
...you might advise the daughter that you are going to send flowers to their room at the B&B with a note expressing your *personal* well-wishes ... and for her to let you know the name of the B&B and the date of their stay. If she insists that she would like you to contribute to the B&B instead, tell her it sounds like a nice idea but you prefer to send a personal gift, and in fact intend to do so whether they go to the B&B or not.
After confirming the reservation just prior to their arrival, have FTD (etc) deliver flowers to their room with a nice note. (or flowers and a bottle of champaign etc.)
If the B&B trip does not come off, send the flowers and the note to them at home anyway ...
TonyD, I think your plan is a bit complicated and not worth the effort. Besides, SB has already stated that the daughter DID name the B&B in her original note (though I don't recall if she mentioned the actual weekend booked, or if it even IS booked).
This young lady needs to be taught a lesson in social manners. She appears to have not listened to reason when spoken to by other relatives (SB's MIL). Either a small donation or completely ignoring the request is probably the best way to go.
I wonder what they finally decided....
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