Originally posted by Sicilian Babe:
I think that's funny that you mention bridal registries. When I was getting married, I registered at Macy's, and my mother thought it was tactless and refused to mention it in the invitation to my shower or anything. Personally, I think it's okay. I mean, if you're invited to a shower or wedding, and you want to know what size sheets the couple needs, or what color their bathroom is going to be so you can buy towels, or what their china pattern is, you can just go to the store and ask for the list.
That was sort of my point about being invited to a party.
Is it any more tactless to be solicited for a gift when there is
no party, as in this case with the anniversary couple, than if there
is a party, like when you're invited to a wedding or a shower?
I'm with your mother on this one.
To me, it's wrong either way because it's presumptuous of the wedding couple or the bride or whomever to assume that you are going to even
give a gift, even though everyone knows that you will.
My father-in-law used to bring a blank check to weddings and other affairs and then, after evaluating how much he thought was spent on the party, he'd go into the men's room and fill in the amount accordingly.
