Why would it make you feel sorry for the future? Because his dad's a borderline alcoholic? ???

Glad you've cooled down, Pat. If anything, I'd've been pissed off had my mother done something without first telling me, or warning me of some sort. There's been a lack of communication here by both parties, I think, and it seriously helps to discuss things, even though, at this age, everybody old enough to be your parents are on completely different wavelengths to you.

You can say "fucking mom" and still love her, Don Jasani. What if you said, "I fucking love you" as a way to emphasise your point?

Anyway, I don't want to ruin an otherwise sorted thread now anyway, so, my final words to Pat: venting is, I think, good. At least you didn't go into school and start shooting kids with a gun or anything, like a few others of this civilised world do.