I found a great place for 2006!! My mother went there the other day and said it's beautiful and that the food was very good. It's the Renault Winery in Egg Harbor, NJ. She said it's about a half hour from Atlantic City, so gamblers can have their fun if they like without a worry that it will consume the weekend.
The place has a hotel called Tuscany House (I know, I know!), a restaurant, golf course, pool, etc. They have a package that includes your room, a bottle of their champagne, dinner, a tour of the winery, and wine tasting. It's $265 per couple on weekends for June-October, less during the week, and even less in May. If anyone would like to see the website, it looks very pretty.