As far as Connie,she was not a "masculine child" and in the old school mentality that Vito possessed, her job was the 4 C's (cook,clean,children,church) I believe that in the novel,Vito's solution to the domestic violence in her home was that she should not give her husband a reason to beat her. Once she married,she no longer belonged to her Father,but instead,to her Husband.
What reason she give her husband to beat her
Her father only gave him a living and never discussed the Family business with him.
That's it! in a nutshell!
Carlo had big plans for himself, marrying into the Top Mafia Family, their only daughter - Right hand man to the Don
Carlo: Hey look, Sonny, Tom -- I'd like to talk to you maybe after dinner. I could be doing a lot more for the Family
