I think the live-dismemberment-by-chainsaw is an urban myth.
John Gotti at the time was a high ranking member of the Gambino family for Christ's sake. One of the biggest criminal enterprises in the USA.
If you "actually" believe a civilian is going to antagonize a mobster over the death of his son I really don't know what to tell you.
. Very Good Point. Those were lies the women spewed to justify the poor guy’s brutal murder