That's not it at all. It's a question for discussion, and we're offering speculation. If the forum were only for people who knew precisely what was going on in every family at every moment, there'd be nobody on it.
Sorry to hear you don't love your country. You're right, Italians would have been much better off had they continued to be excluded from higher learning, career advancement and left with bricklaying, the priesthood or the Mafia as viable career options.
I just love how these blokes get on here and act like they're privy to every induction ceremony. They could be conducting one this very moment. I've been reading about organized crime for countless years and still see names I never seen before.
