This is the random discussion, I need some married women to talk to and vent about this.....

My husband has been having...well there's know other way to put this even though it sounds babyish....accidents....he's been so embarrased, I finally got him to go to the doctor...we founf out his has total incontinence, bladder and bowel, sugery wont fix it, so the only solution is ...Depends! He is so embarassed and every time I tryo to comfort him he get even more embarassed....He gets mad because I call them diapers, but thats what they are! I mean yeah there are some depends thats are more like underwear, but the kind he needs are diapers. I help him out when he needs changed, but that just makes it worse. But he takes forever and it would be easier if he just let me do it. He is starting to and I just hope it not for the wrong reason...The thing is we just got married two years ago, he is only 24, but has developed a condition....I think he's age has something to do with how embarassed he gets, but I am his wife....he shouldn't be embarassed....but then again Im having trouble with the thought of changing more than our kids diapers (if we ever have any).....

-G

That's life. Good luck to him though.

The subject title of your thread is incredibly appropriate.

First of all by the way you write, and considering you are new to this Board and have exactly 5 posts under your belt as of the time you began the thread...I'm not at all certain your story is for real.

But assuming it is, your husband has my sympathies...I am not married and will tell you what I think anyway.

Leave him alone, you are adding to his humiliation with your incredibly insensitive behavior.

Don't call them diapers if he doesn't want you to. It's disrespectful.

Don't try to 'help him change' unless and until he asks you to...no matter how much you think you can help. Doesn't matter that you're his wife, doesn't matter that you've been intimate. It is personal. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?

It sounds like this is a relatively new situation and he needs time to get used to it and live with it. The last thing he needs is to have you want take over and try to speed things up. What's your hurry? He has to get used to the procedure. He is young and if he's going to have to live with this condition for years, and asuuming there will be no further physical problems...he's got to be able to take care of himself.

I know you probably mean well...but you are trying to coddle him and it sounds like that's not what he wants. Also I have a problem with the final sentence; as a tag-on to the rest of your it indicates that you are attempting to assist him because you feel it is your role as a wife and you HAVE to...and not out of sensitivity and caring.

One more thing...the both of you may need to look into support groups. That is, again...if your story is real.

And if by some horrible chance it isn't , then you should be ashamed of yourself.

Regards,
Apple

Whoa, you change your husbands diapers? If this were real I'm sure he could handle it on his own.

No disrespect, but I've thought about it, and I am going to also have to follow Apple's gut reaction. I think this woman is full of shit.

No pun intended.

*Insert What AppleOnYa Said Here*

I don't know...the best way to show your love for your spouse is to post incredibly embarassing stories on the internet. I mean, I wouldn't divorce this woman, given the chance.

Yes, that was incredibly unfunny sarcasm.

Go to hell, corleone.

I will see you there, blue eyes!

Yeah! You! Your eyes are blue!

SONIC BOOM!

*I just went and got you done. Now you have to lay down... you see, 'cause I sonic boom'd you. L... lay down... ah... come on... lay down...*