Originally Posted by Turnbull
Good question! smile

I inferred from the way Connie breezed into the First Communion party scene ("I'm only a week late") that she and her kids didn't live on the Tahoe compound. Later, at Mama's wake, Connie, on her knees, tells Michael, "I'd like to stay close to home now if it's alright." She also says that she wants to "take care" of Michael. That tells me she moved onto the Tahoe compound, presumably with her kids, after that.
Thanks Turnbull

Connie breezed into Anthony's party, with Merle but no kids

It seems the children were either living or already at Tahoe compound Hence Mama's “You go see your children first”

Even when Connie is not flying around the world with free loading men, she only sees her children on weekends ie: it seems Connie's children were not living with Connie

However we do see Connie coming to Mama's wake with her children, who, from memory, were never seen again!

Where were Connie's children living until Connie “moved onto the Tahoe compound” after Mama's death