Have you had someone special that got away?

Maybe this is a weird ? for a Organized crime forum. But I can't talk to my friends in my immediate life about stuff like this. None of them would get it. I never really had any regrets about any of my past relationship except one other. . But I saw just today a girl I had gone out with, was pregnant and engaged. She was an amazing individual and probably the most beautiful girl I have ever been with. We went out last year and I fucked it up.I let something really good go. And seeing that today about her having a kid with someone else really messed with me. She would of stuck with me and there was a chance we might of gotten married and had kids. I left her though I was dealing with a lot of personal shit and I didn't know how to tell her, which is something I have to work on. I don't know. I am turning 27 this month and I can't tell if I am messed up over this girl. Or if I am just getting old seeing people I care about settling down with other people, combined with losing other people in my life that I have cared about deeply.

Have any of you ever felt like you had a special relationship get away? I have had 2 now that really hurt when I think about how I let them go. And I just keep thinking about how in a Bronx Tale and Sonny saying that you get 3 loves in this world. And I worry I will have lost all of my chances without realizing it. I used to want to be single forever. But now after having lost a ton of close people , I hate being alone. And I am happy with who I am. But it hurts when you let an opportunity like love leave.

I had one 4 years ago and i still think about her every day
I mean it there is no day pass without thinking about her for 4 years now
I think that sometimes you just never forget about someone you loved
And I truly think that there is love and there is real love which never ends

you both will when you fall in love again.

Buddy, been there and done that. I will guarantee you this, you will meet another amazing girl and after a while you will realize the new one is the perfect fit.
You said you were dealing with a lot? Well, mentally you werent ready to settle down. You sometimes need to be selfish and work on making yourself better before you can totally commit to someone. I know how you feel and its not easy, you may feel guilty, lonely, and all the other bad shit that goes along with losing a girl you think was perfect for you. Whats bothing you as well is the fact that she moved on and you didnt. Dont let that obscure the fact that in reality, she probably wasnt the perfect fit for you. Trust me on this.

Yeah, been there, she has kids now. Just strangers talking here, but if you connect on different things, there are some things that need work on. If you been with a partner for over 3 years, there is something there and communication is strong. My biggest weakness is gambling. Me and her, 5 years. If it is under 3 years then forget about it. You may think it was something there, but that is only your mind playing tricks on you.

The greatest women I ever met is my wife. Been together over 50 years. Never cheated on her because I knew a good thing when I saw it. Every women I met before I met her meant nothing to me. When I got in trouble they would walk away except her that knucklehead:)

But, if I never met her I probably would have met another women who maybe I would have felt the same way about maybe.

It really pains me to admit that what some of you experienced I find relatable. I am 28, but turning 29 this year and I basically wasted my entire youth because of one girl, not that it was the only reason behind all of the loneliness and depression or the tougher times during those years in general, but since during these last few years thinking back to those days it feels almost like as if it sort of was a dream, and that's not exactly a very pleasant feeling... I'm guessing that's because nothing exciting ever happened, but that might be a different story. It honestly cost me like ten years to even get over that one, that all happened just a few years after having finally left behind the place where I was born and had lived all my life for a completely different city in this country rather far away from there when my eyes picked up on a different, somewhat reminiscent girl one day... Now, it has gone more than an additional year and a half I think since that time I first understood that I had to proceed. That oppurtunity came around about three months ago, I was turned down, am quite sure because of one mistake - the wrong approach. I was reminded by, and now realize that having heartache to me really is one of the greatest pains you can experience. My heart is shattered, but they make the decision whether this should happen or not. They eventually live on and forget, men don't.

yeah i agree
when i look back on time it feels like it's all was a dream, that's weird...

After a break up,depression hits which is normal,you think you will never find better than she was.That's just wrong.

With every girl you will feel different emotion,every girl will make u feel different.Break up is nothing more than another experience that makes u stronger.

To answer a question,no,never had anything serious before this one,i am with same girl for past 8 years,she is pregnant now,1 month pregnant.

Things Change.
And that’s a good thing.

I believe we are always where we are supposed to be and things happen for very good reasons and if we roll with it and trust the ebb & tide we end up exactly where we are supposed to be.

My Answer to question; Yes but, I may have let her get away since....things change and i am exactly where I need to be.

How true & how fuckin' beautiful..ur so right Dues..Good Man!!

Thank you Sir, We all Live and need to make sure we Learn as well.

I had one. The more years that go by though I realize it worked out for the best.

What makes it awkward though is after a few years after we broke up, my dad married her aunt. So the lady I new as 'Aunt Patty' is now my step mom and her cousins are now my stepsisters.

And then one of my stepsisters marries a guy who has the same first and middle name as me.

But yeah it all worked out for the best believe it or not.

Just as long as ur ok wit it........life goes on..."cause...IIII aint got no body"...meaning..there is someone always worse off than u..us..

https://youtu.be/xx86CxKYtg0

God, have been in a difficult place now for almost 4 years in relating to this subject. Where I am now is currently that I don't know whether she "got away" or not. Such absolutely confusing times, getting positive vibes, then negative ones, back and forth and then the whole thing repeats. Anyone ever experienced the subject about someone they don't know?

I hear ya brother. I had a four-year-long relationship end recently and I'm still not sure I'm over it.

I constantly go back and forth over whether I could've tried harder to save it, do things different.

She doesn't message me anymore and I reciprocate.

I hope she's doing well. She was a special gal.

If you'll excuse me, I have something in my eye...

Seriously, I feel like killing myself over shit like this all the time.

But I don't have the guts. I need someone to do to me what they did to Jeffrey Epstein.

Know you're not alone in this, Gudfadern. Relationships end every day, and sometimes it's amicable, but a lot of the time there will be someone suffering in silence.

I'm sure someone will come along and make you forget all about her.

Yes,,, Yess Moe... hear those words you offer good4dem” Hear them and cement that in a Solid Foundation for know things change and change 4 sure,


Life is a Roller Coaster, UPS & DOWNS, we need to ride them all and stay on board.

Wait for the good times , its worth it.

Thanks MT. I don't even wish to want to forget if you know what I'm saying by this.

Started getting positive thoughts again after she said no... actually she didn't say no she said 'I don't have time unfortunately' and that's all I let her say during those brief seconds. Anyway I got my hopes back because I'm convinced she replied to my message from almost a year earlier on Facebook where they randomly filter away whichever message they feel you don't want to see because of their absolutely briliant message filtering idea because her profile pic showed across a local buy & sell group I wasn't even visiting plus showed up twice in the list of people I might know - never once before asking her out. Coincidence...?

I hope your ex-girlfriend eventually messages you back if it is what you want friend.

I was doing better in that department because I got abruptly interrupted and went down even lower than I already was there so I haven't been thinking of her to that degree because all of that energy all of a sudden was put onto a crisis situation I am still dealing with now almost two years after. That was until this Sunday when I think she happened to walk past me but I never saw her face so I am not positive, either way it messed with my head again.
The very little communicating I had with her I felt a major chemistry which was even greater then last time I felt this way. I think she would be my third one that I've felt this strongly for.

I agree with what you said completely. Sorry to hear about your struggling, I hope you get what you wish for too.

I let a couple get away, but I just see it as it was not meant to be, you're only 27, you have sooo much time, forget about the past, don't focus on the future, focus on now, be the best you can be, right now, in every way, health wise, eat right, work out, treat everybody with respect, unless they give you a reason no to, separate yourself from negative people, and when you are in a situation where you meet somebody - go for it, have no fear.

Try this, I think it will help you: https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/

Who hasn't had someone special get away??

I heard that..I would cut off an arm 2 have my high school sweetheart back...what a babe & memories..2yrs down the drain cause ..I was a fuck up & chose the wrong path@ a crucial time in my early days.

Same, other than wanting her back.

I got what I want now.

Yeah , I luv mine 2..I'd b lost without her..

Same here. My problem was I liked to have her and others as well. Obviously she didn't like that too much

It happened to me. But it was my fault; I forgot to lock the van.